It's your best friend's wedding and you have been given the honor of being named the maid of honor. Lucky you! Your responsibilities are plentiful and the bride is depending on you to come through for her. That's why you were chosen. She knows you got her back. There is a list of things that you should do but did you know that there are things that you shouldn't do. Most have never heard of such things. That is why we've compiled a list of 5 Things a Maid of Honor Shouldn't Do.
5 Things a Maid of Honor Shouldn't Do - Photographer: Guy Basabose
1. Don't Make it About You
By being the maid of honor, your sole responsibility is to provide support to the bride. The bride is the main attraction. You are responsible for helping her get dressed, making sure she does not get famished by making sure she eats, holding her bouquet, and giving a toast at the wedding. She may feel overwhelmed at times and may need to vent or may need emotional support. That's where you come in to ensure she is comforted and to help her through the process.
2. Don't Complain
It's easy to start complaining when you have so many responsibilities to fulfill. Don't do it! Try to keep a positive attitude and know that she would do the same for you. Keep your opinions to yourself. You don't want the bridesmaids to start complaining also.
3. Don't Embarrass the Bride During Your Toast
We all know you go way back with the bride. However, during your toast, you should never embarrass the bride by bringing up moments you encountered together that would be better suited for another occasion. Never drink too much before your toast. You want to remain respectful and with a clear head. That's why we have included this on our list of 5 Things a Maid of Honor Shouldn't Do.
4. Don't Disappear
The last thing you want to do is disappear and have the bride looking for you and wondering where you are. We all know that it's a long day, and everyone is exhausted. As the maid of honor, you must keep a watchful eye on everything that's going on. However, your job isn't done when the DJ plays the last song. Your job is to make sure she doesn't leave anything behind at the venue and help to carry out any of her personal belongings such as the veil, wedding shoes, etc.
5. Don't View the Wedding Planner / Coordinator As a Threat
Believe it or not, this happens when it comes to the maid of honor and the wedding planner/coordinator. That's why we had to include it on our list of 5 Things a Maid of Honor Shouldn't Do. Just like you the wedding planner/coordinator has the responsibility of making sure the bride is taken care of. Never view the wedding planner/coordinator as a threat. Instead, work together as a team to make sure the bride has everything she needs.
If you would like to learn more about our 5 Things a Maid of Honor Shouldn't Do, contact us to speak to one of our wedding planners.