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Wedding Etiquette 101: The Dos and Don’ts of Bringing a Plus-One

You've probably thought long and hard about who to invite to your wedding and if they should be allowed to bring a plus one. Not only that, you had to decide if you wanted to allow children at the reception as well. Many guests aren't familiar with how to handle a plus-one. We've compiled a list of Wedding Etiquette 101: The Dos and Don'ts of Bringing a Plus-One.

Wedding Etiquette 101: The Dos and Dont's of Bring a Plus-One - Photo by: Nicee Martin

The Dos

1. Be Sure That Your Wedding Invitation Includes a Plus-One

First on our list of Wedding Etiquette 101: The Dos and Don'ts of Bringing a Plus-One are obvious, and that is to be sure that your wedding invitation includes a plus-one. Couples tend to count only the guest that is listed on the invitation especially if you are single and they are trying to save money. Never assume that you can bring plus-one if your invitation doesn't specially say so.

2. Give Your Plus-One Advance Notice

Don't ask your plus-one to attend a wedding at the last minute. Give them ample enough time (usually 4 - 6 weeks) to decide if they would like to attend the wedding with you. Giving your plus-one advance notice helps them to prepare. For example, they may have to take off work or re-schedule another appointment. When you decide on who you're going to invite, be sure to at least give them this courtesy.

3. Your Gift Should Reflect That You Are Bringing a Plus-One

It's a no-brainer. If you choose to bring a plus-one, then your gift to the couple should be a little bigger. So, if you already know that the venue is on the expensive side, then your gift should reflect that. The rule of thumb is to make the gift a least equal to the cost of your plate. If you're bringing a plus-one, simply double that amount. If you aren't financially able to do so, present a gift that is respectful and thoughtful.

The Don'ts

1. Feel It's Necessary to Bring a Date

Don't feel like you have to bring a date. In our Wedding Etiquette 101: The Dos and Don'ts of Bringing a Plus-One, it should be noted that plus-ones are usually reserved for a significant other. If you aren't comfortable with attending the wedding alone, bring someone that you already know and someone who would be respectful during the ceremony and reception.

2. Substitute a Guest

Weddings are not the time to make a substitution. If you were in a relationship when the couple got engaged and they sent the invitation to you and your ex, do not bring anyone in their place. In this case, simply notify the bride and groom that your situation has changed and let them decide if they would like to extend another plus-one to you.

3. Distract From The Bride and Groom

Whatever your big news is, it can wait! Weddings tend to bring out different emotions. Do not distract from the bride and groom by proposing to your significant other at their wedding. This is neither time nor place to pop the question. Let the bride and groom have their day. Besides, they paid for it.

If you would like to learn more about our Wedding Etiquette 101: The Dos and Don'ts of Bringing a Plus-One, contact us to speak to one of our wedding planners.



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